It’s interesting that after having been in New York for about 3 months now, it seems I have literally met everyone from everywhere. Just recently, I met a couple randomly at a show who were from Spain who were huge fans of Whitney Houston and shared with me the political climate in their country and what it means for them. Prior to which, I met an interesting individual from Holland, who took it upon himself to show me the city and I enjoyed listening to him about his context of work as their culture encourages a work life balance and how he travels the world meeting different people. I have also met a native born American, who is of South Korean descent and chooses not to identify as Asian American but just as Asian as she is still rooted deeply in the culture of her heritage. I met an interesting bi-racial couple who both are native New Yorkers but their parents immigrated from Italy and Trinidad and Tobago respectively.
I would like to believe, anyone that has met me, knows my attitude in regards towards gender equity. I my share opinion honestly, I laugh loud, I am committed to the Marvel cinematic universe and sometimes appreciate the DC one and I wear pants because dresses are off-putting for me.
I’m not saying these are inherently male attributes but they might not necessarily be seen or perceived as particularly feminine either because of the way we have been socialized. For whatever reason however, I am comfortable doing these things and do not think I am any less woman as a result. One of the contributing reasons is my dad who has done an alright job in not making me think otherwise.
I have a friend, let’s call her Wonder Woman. She and I with our other friends usually have chill sessions, and we talk about an assortment of topics and it usually ends up with us discussing our life goals. Somehow, we cannot avoid the topic and it comes up more often than I care to mention. She, with my support and agreement always ends up saying her life ambition is to become a house wife. Some look at her in shock, others laugh because they believe she is being comedic and others blatantly dismiss her, because she clearly does not know what she wants.
It’s been an incredible three weeks in the United States. It’s my very first time coming to America (pun intended) and it’s been nothing but a rollercoaster ride of everything one could think of. I have experienced more emotions in these few weeks than I have in one year. It’s more than just what I have seen on TV and what people have told me. Outside of the infrastructure, the sounds, lights and rush of it all, what has stood out for me has been the people.